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Body Language

Published on June 16, 2006 in Physical. 0 Comments

Body language coveys approximately 55% of every conversations we have. It shows if we’re stressed, relaxed, in a great mood or down, if we’re confortable or not. Being able to control our own body language is a vital key to better communication between individuals.

Keep an Open Body Posture
Don’t cross your legs nor your arms. This means that you are not open to communication. This often mean that you disagree with what is being said. Look up to the sky, but not to high. Eye level should be good enough. When discussing with someone, face them, look them straight in the eye, but do not stare.

Your Facial Expression (Smile)
Would you rather approach someone with a smile or someone with a plain face? Someone who laugh or someone who doesn’t? Those small facial expression transmit a “vibe” which really attracts as it shows you are able to laugh at things, that you are in a fun mood, that you don’t take things too seriously.

Speed of Execution (Slow)
You should always try to move slowly, there’s no need to rush things. This will convey that you are confident and calm and that you can take the time to appreciate what you’re doing. Fast movements convey stress, nervousness, that there’s a deadline to be met.

You might never have noticed it but when you are in presence of someone who’s stressed, you’re most likely to catch his body language and to start mirroring it. Soon, you’ll feel stressed too for no reason. Always try to act disconnected from others. Don’t start acting differently because of someone else feelings.

If someone is angry at you, don’t fall for the being angry too. If you stay cool you’ll demonstrate way more power compared to this person. Being in control of our emotion is an important thing when in social situation as it shows that we’re able to connect/disconnect from the people we are with.

Always remember that your body language is the most important of your communication. Being able to master it is great as it will improve the impact you have on others. Words aren’t as much important as you think, it’s how they are conveyed that is important, so you should not care about whether or not what you say is good or not as much as how good is it being said.

The power of your own thoughts

Published on June 6, 2006 in Health, Mental and Personal. 0 Comments

It’s awesome to have an ability that can allow you to overcome anything. If you can control your thoughts, you’re most likely to achieve what it is you want to achieve. This is because “the energy flows where the attention goes”. If you dedicate time to do things you like, you’ll become good at them. But if instead, you focused all your energy on negatives thoughts, you’ll simply reinforce them.

Many will soon ask “Well, how can I control each and every of my thoughts?”
The answer is that you do not want NOR need to verify each and every of your thoughts. What you need to do is to realise that some are bad and some are good. What you want to do is supress the bad and keep the good. Whenever you do something that you feel is not right, stop doing it as soon as possible. If for example you swear, if you keep swearing, events will create possibilities for you to swear even more. As soon as you realise swearing is not good for you, try by every possible mean to stop it.

This sounds fatalist isn’t it? Basicly, it’s a frame of mind. The more you do something, the more it’s likely to happen once more. It’s almost a Murphy law:

The things you want to avoid at all cost will occur more and more — Me

Think about it for a second: if you were to spend each and every minutes looking at your face for signs of acne, would you start creating pictures of you in your mind with acne? As soon as you’d feel a small bump on your face you’d start to freak out? You see, all this list of events actually contribute to it happening. That’s why you should not focus or even think about what you do not want. It’s actually making you lose your time as it only reinforce what you do not want. Instead, find a way to make it positive. “I want to have a soft skin” would be a better frame of mind. This way, you’ll work on what will help you instead of what you don’t want to occur.

Yet again, it’s a bit hard to really think it’s going to work, but I can assure you that if you follow the right mindset, you won’t have any problem. You see, all this article is actually talking about the power of your brain. It is him who tells you how you should be feeling about EVERYthing. Why would you consider acne to be bad? Maybe you should know that acne is a good sign of health and that your hormones are working great! No, instead you tell to yourself “My skin is messed up, I’ll never recover from it”. It will never help you to tell yourself you’re not doing the things the way you should do them. DO what you want, not what you don’t want.

It is you who decide what is good and what is not. If it’s not good, then stop giving it priority in your life, it’ll just make it worst. If it’s positive then make sure to emphasize it and give it more power so it grows even more.

If someone tells you if a glass is filled to the half with water, is it half-empty or half-full? — tell him it’s half-full :)