Monthly Archive for December, 2006

Leadership Skills

Published on December 29, 2006 in Self-Improvement. 0 Comments

When entering a room, are you looking around or are you plain confident and going straight somewhere?

Well, if you answered that you’d be looking around, you do not have leadership skills yet.

Leaders enter every place having in mind that they are the leader and that people will be looking at them for cues on how to behave in their presence. They have an aura of confidence and they let no one walk on their foot.

Improving your leadership skills

Increasing your leadership skills is a question of taking responsibility and especially assuming them.

First, you must accept to take responsibility you would not take in the past and you must accept that you might do them not correctly. It is fine for everyone to learn and to make errors. Imagine if you were to start learning out to write and you wouldn’t be allowed to practice. If after a few time you were not able to write correctly, you would have quit, who would you been now? Well, you wouldn’t be able read this and you wouldn’t be able to comment or to write anything. You would not be able to get a job that requires you to report to someone else. You would not be able to communicate over the Internet with others using e-mails. You see, it’s okay to fail even if it’s the first time or 2000th time.

Second, like it was stated before, you must take responsabilities and then assumed them. Assuming means you must take action and to take action is to take decisions. Not only will it take decision, but you will follow them. When you follow what you’ve decided you go forward. This way you’ll be learning much faster from your errors, and you’ll become one of the best.

You see people call other geniuses. What is a genius? Someone was born with the talents or someone that is so good that everyone thinks he’s a genius? You see, most people accept that geniuses are people that are good at what they’re doing. I don’t think that someone was born with the talent of a genius so he could play the piano. They must have learned, failed, worked hard to become what is called a genius. It’s not that hard to become a genius. All you have to do is dedicate some time to one of your passions and get into it as far as you can.

Everyone wants to become a leader but most don’t become leaders because it involves too much work and especially too much stress. All that stress is caused by fear. Fear of the unknown. When you know what to do and you accepted to take responsabilities and assume them, becoming a leader is much more interesting than being one of the crowd.

Go work on your leadership skills. Accept your responsabilities and take actions.

How to get what you want

Published on December 29, 2006 in Self-Improvement. 0 Comments

One of the non-sense about this is that you can get what you want by not wanting it. Let me explain:
If you want to get something really worthy but many people are looking for the same thing, if you look like you don’t want it, you’ll be different from others which will make you more worthy, though you’ll get what you want. It looks more complex than it actually is.

Lately, I’ve been looking to acquire social skills which I is something I wasn’t looking for in the past. Since I had no experience in this “expertise”, I didn’t know where to begin. So I started at the bottom, trying the best I could to gain experience but it simply didn’t work. I was even getting in the other direction which wasn’t great at all.

I follow the saying : “If something doesn’t work, do the opposite“, so I went ahead and stopped going on too strong, and it progressively came to me. It was weird at first because giving less interest in others was actually getting them more interested. I have felt and understood why certain person get rejected fast, and I mean REALLY FAST. It’s unbelievable. People are so much based on first impression that it’s understandable that we often avoid getting to know new people which is quite sad to me. Social surrounding is, in my opinion, the best way to enjoy your life fully. A self-centered person can only lose from being that way because he/she loses much experience from others. Think about it, if you want to have a lot of experience in different situations, how do you do it? Watch movies? Hell no. You experiment with tons of people.

As a matter of fact, people are in a scarcity mentality. Everyone is afraid of everyone. At least, for a big part of the population. Those who become rich and become successful in life are often those unique person who develop leaders traits. And what is great about this is that it’s not hard to shift of mentality. It just need a bit of work of your part and massive action. Push your limits, destroy them, show yourself you can be better than you already are. It’s all about that.

If you want to get what you want, you must do what is required first. Then you’ll get what you want, WITHOUT ANY PROBLEM. If you want a new car, make money. If you want to make money, get a job. If you already have a job, find a way to increase your revenue. If you want to increase your revenue, find new opportunities, new ideas, etc. You see, this is almost a perpetual circle of improvement. Each time you improve something on that ladder, you improve your “chances” of getting what you want, because you know, everything in life is about chance. Let just say that by following those steps (pushing your limits, improving everything that relates to what you want), probabilities will most likely play in your favor.